Maybe Means No

Back in June, Web Standards-guru Jeffrey Zeldman made a great point about the impracticality of the “Maybe” option in Web invitations.

As data, “maybe” is as useless as a three-star rating in a five-star system—and as hypnotically compelling to users. “Maybe” is a button that begs to be pushed.

Maybe is a magnet for neuroses. It salves guilt complexes and incites passive-aggressive avoidance behaviors.

“Maybe” sometimes means maybe, but it can also mean, “I’m not coming but I don’t want to hurt your feelings.” Or even, “I plan to come but I reserve the right to change my mind at the last minute if something better comes along.” Some people even use maybe to mean, “I won’t make dinner but I’ll come for dessert.”

He’s right. Except he might be too generous.

Here’s how I think the typical responses pan out (non-scientific).



What do you think? Am I right?

Maybe?